Expressing Truth

How often do you stop yourself from saying or doing something because of what someone else may think?  Yes, there’s a value to not wanting to embarrass or offend our friends, family and colleagues.  But I mean, when you stop speaking your Truth because the fear of someone’s reaction or judgment.  

Speaking your Truth is difficult to negotiate.  It’s easy to swing from one spectrum to the other — from saying nothing to expressing way beyond what’s necessary.  I’ve had years of being way too blunt and honest, downplaying reactions or feelings because what I said was “true”.  More recently, I’ve found myself being very concerned about others’ opinions and reactions to my Truth, to the point of self-doubt and self-censorship.  I’m seeking a balance.

Expressing Truth lends itself to criticism and disagreement.  Afterall, we don’t all have the same thoughts and perspectives.  I used to be over-confident in my opinion, convinced in my accurate assessment of all situations.  Over time, I realized things are more complex and there’s rarely an easy or obvious answer.  However, with much thought and consideration, we can come to conclusions that best suit our values, analysis and perspective.  

It serves me to express my Truth, with respect, compassion, thoughtfulness and an appropriate setting.  My Truth has been formed from decades of experience, thought and consideration.  It is not Gospel; it may not be yours.  But it is valid, real and true.